Acceptance is a loaded word with many possible definitions. “Acceptance” can be defined as freedom from our assumptions about our capacities, and the freedom to be more respectful toward ourselves - just as we are with our dearest, most revered friends. One way that I am working on this in my daily life is by following these simple (yet not always easy) steps in self-observation.
1) To witness what is taking place without judgement. As soon as I judge the situation at hand I have separated myself from it. In this way, I prevent myself from seeing and feeling my behaviour and taking full responsibility for it, owning my behaviour.
2)Without changing what is observed. The moment I am taken by the labelling of behaviour as 'bad/good' then I cease to observe. Now my attention is caught up in the judging of the behaviour rather than the behaviour itself.
3)With attention on bodily sensations and a relaxed body. Some traditions call this 'Self-remembering'. First I witness without judgement, then I do nothing to change the situations at hand, thirdly I find myself in time and space within my body in the present moment. I keep my awareness on the movement of energy throughout my body whether it be the 5 senses, emotions, physical tension, sleepiness etc.
4) Ruthless Self Honesty. To be honest with myself. To see all that is going on within myself simply as it is. To stand in this moment, do nothing, try to change nothing, judging nothing, simply feeling totally without judging it as 'good or bad' 'right or wrong'. The body knows what to do with this energy only if I do not interfere.
These tools are slowly and patiently shifting my experiences. If you would like to learn more please read "Self Observation"-by Red Hawk or send me a reply email with your questions and comments.